Marriage is hard. Anyone who tells you different is lying.
Mine works for a variety of reasons. The first of which is that we’re both the same kind of crazy. When the forecast says it’s going to be the first decent weekend of the summer, what do we decide to do? Drive three hours to paint the Love Pad.
No, wait, we threw the dog in the car, drove three hours and painted the Love Pad while it was 85 degrees outside.

- Self-portrait with Cady.
Reason #2 our marriage works so well: we both love this stupid dog so much.
After we prepped and primed the living room, we walked 20 blocks to the river, and, though I totally hadn’t packed the right shoes, it was so worth it:
I’m not sure I can even express how much I love this guy or how big his heart is.

Not the guy on the bike. I don't know him. Nice enough guy, I bet.
On the way home, we picked up Mexican food at La Palapa and a six-pack of Bridgeport Kingpin Red Ale.
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Some days just scream to be beer days, and this was one of them. We sat on the floor of the Love Pad, surrounded by paint fumes, ate Rockfish Tacos (mine) and a Carne Asada burrito (his), and drank beer. Life was good.
And we’d worn out the dog, which is not that easy.
The next day I had two things on my mind: bagels and chalkboards.
We woke up early (after not sleeping so well – our neighborhood is funky awesome but LOUD) and hoofed it about ten blocks to Kettleman Bagel Company for bagels and coffee. (Yeah, that’s us at 7:30 am with empty travel mugs and barely brushed hair traipsing through the hood. Hi! Nice to meetcha!) I’d read in my Food Lover’s Guide To Portland that Kettleman had the best bagels in Portland, and, being a New Yorker, Chris does love a good bagel.
No pics (mental bagel, NOW), but I will tell you they do make great bagels with excellent texture – not too chewy. PS. Their Cinnamon Raisin bagel has 8 Points, as opposed to the standard 6 Points for store-bought. Oh well, I ate it at 8:15 am and counted the Points almost 12 hours later. *Shrug*
This is key: A marriage is held together by long walks and breakfasts together…sometimes a high-calorie starch.
(and by keeping hilarious but embarrassing and humiliating stories private. That’s the hardest, believe me!)
And, finally, my marriage works because of compromise. Last week, Chris didn’t think we needed the huge vintage schoolroom chalkboard that I’d seen in a nearby shop. Once he saw how bright the dining area looked with the new paint, he changed his mind. I was soooo afraid it would be gone since chalkboards are SO hot right now (as seen here and here), and it was really cheap ($65). But I called the shop right when it opened, and they said it was still there! (Ok, technically I called back after leaving a message 15 minutes before they opened because I’m impatient like that.)
Now that’s love: Chris cleaning the chalkboard he hadn’t even wanted but knew I desired. Not to mention the fact he rode back from the shop with 75 lbs of Cady on his lap so the chalkboard would fit in the back of the car.
Sigh.
That’s simply how it works.